I grew up in a family that was direct with what they had to say. As the youngest of 8 children in an Irish Canadian family, being subtle or indirect wasn’t an option. If you were not honest and somewhat aggressive, you just may starve to death when Mom put the food on the table. It was survival of the fittest – grab or starve. I suppose that taught us all that if you didn’t stand up for yourself and get involved, you were plain out of luck.
As I have gotten older, I think the attitude of “speak up” has served me quite well. I like to think I have harnessed the aggressive side that comes out at the family table but have maintained the value of getting involved in the discussion, of being heard. Through my years as a principal, I also see the importance of everyone being heard for a couple of reasons.
1. Great ideas are built though compiling a whole bunch of good ideas. Many of those good ideas sit in the brains of those who are less likely to contribute. Having structures and protocols in place so that all voices are heard is a priority in meetings.
2. Everyone does contribute BUT if they don’t contribute at the table, the conversation occurs with others in the parking lot. These conversations are usually toxic and don’t help the common good. Again, structures where everyone speaks is crucial.
I encourage you all, as leaders and teachers to ensure that EVERYONE feels heard. Whether it is your students, your staff or your friends, when dealing with people, value their thinking through ensuring that they are being heard. And, if you are one of those quieter types – reach in and feel valued. You have much to add to the dialogue – add it.
Keep on learning,
Dave
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